Sunday, December 03, 2006

Quarter Life Crisis

I have heared so many a times of Mid Life Crisis. But have you ever heard of a "Quarter-life Crisis."? I think they do exist.

Quarter life crisis is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.

You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are
or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better.

Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

Twenty-something friends... U aren't alone in state of confusion....


Susan Abraham said...

Dearest Rhyanne,
It's been awhile, hasn't it.
Thank you so much for being there for me the other day when I needed you.
You will come through and having a sparkling new year, my friend.
You view life with courage & intelligence.
Please do come & visit sometime.
Here's wishing you a very merry Christmas, happy holidays & an enriching New Year 2007.

with love

janinebrittanydawn said...

hey rhyanne. I was just going through some of my past blogs, and I saw your comment. I wanted you to know that I did not purposely ignore you. But i havent given my blog address to anyone therefore never bothered to look for comments. I dont know if you remember me, but you commented back in april. Thanks again. Feel free to comment back. Janine

BendingPeak said...

LOVE this post. And I loved the book Quarter likfe crisis. Made me feel not so alone.