Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Love is Love

The language of love has many dialects.  It is expressed in various ways. Let me count the ways...

Love is watching my favorite TV series, Gossip Girl, with my Munchkin while he groans and comments against the characters, nitpicking on their flaws and telling me that I am prettier than Blair or Serena, until he drifts off to sleep.

Love is eating rocky road ice cream with my Munchkin and setting aside all the almonds for me to eat.  Not because he doesn't like almonds (in fact he likes almonds) but because I love almonds.

Love is smiling and posing at the camera to take our snapshots, even if my Munchkin does not want to be photographed.  Munchkin's mum calls it a forced smile.  But I think he looks all handsome to me.

Love is turning the heating on to a full volume because I am shivering, even if my Munchkin feels like it is "hotter than the sun".

Love is patiently listening to my concerns and woes about my work, my day, my life.  Always there to lend his ear and give his strong arms to lean on.

Love is patiently trying to answer my endless and sometimes crazy and outrageous rhetorical questions. My Munchkin pausing for a moment to think, then sigh, then answer them the best way he could.

Love is listening and absorbing our conversations, to the point of remembering the tiniest and even most trivial facts that I never expect my munchkin would remember.  Because it means, he is giving me his utmost attention - even the the words not spoken.

Love is telling me I am beautiful, even when I am stressed and undone.

Love is going to church with me.

Love is loving me and treating me like a princess.

All these and more.  Even the tiniest thing can speak volumes on love's expression.  Because little things don't mean a lot.  They mean everything.

Sunday, August 08, 2010

Lessons on The Subject on Men

I am no relationship guru, nor am I an expert in men.  Combining both reminds me of a lesson in chemistry - complex compound.  And yet it is in their complexity that which makes both more interesting. As how physics would describe them, both radiate gravitational enigma.  

To borrow the english lesson on figures of speech, its simile is irony.  And even if like algebra, the variables are vast, I have come to conclude some basic truth about about men and relationships.  These bullet facts are based from  the chronicles of my learnings in history with and a couple of basic lessons on logic and derivation with all the men I know - boyfriend, ex-boyfriends, male friends, relatives, officemates,  famous personalities, etc.

Here are some basic lessons and facts about men that I always keep in mind.  Some ideas may not be originally mine, some may even sound cliche, but these are the basic, tried and tested truths and principles that I have personally experienced over time:

1. If a man loves you, nothing can stop him from spending time with you.  He will find a way, not matter how inconvenient it is for him.

2. If a man is not interested with you, nothing can stop him from avoiding you.  He can give you a thousand and one excuses why he can't.

3.  You know when a man is serious with you - that is when he plans his future and you are included in that plan.

4. When a man has a problem, he normally likes to process things on his own.  It is not that he is shutting you away, he just needs time to think on his own.  

5.  The more you run after a man, the more he runs away.

6. Never give the man the power to affect the way how you think and feel about yourself.

7. Men secretly crave for appreciation.  They like to know that they know how to please their mate. Learn to appreciate even the littlest and simplest thing.  Most often, for men, the words "thank you" is more impactful than "I love you." 

8. Unless stated, never assume.  Just because he is inviting you out for lunches, dinners or coffee, it does not necessarily mean that he is willing to commit in a serious relationship with you.  Sometimes, they just want to be in company with a beautiful girl.  Period.  So, never assume unless stated.

9.  When a man remembers the smallest details of your conversations, like trivial facts about you and your stories, you know that he is deeply interested in you.  Because more often than not, they forget.  Lest, even pay attention to obvious details.  So if he remembers, girlfriend be flattered.  And hey, that's another brownie point for him to get the appreciation he deserves.

10.  Men and women have different love language.  Do not expect to be loved in your own terms.  Learn to read his language, this way you will be able to feel his love for you.  
So far, the list ends here.  I am still in the process of learning.  And now, being in a relationship, makes the subject matter more interesting.  I now have my personal tutor who can help me learn more.   I look forward to learning the next few chapters in this lesson with my munchkin!

So that's all about it for now.  Class dismissed... Study hard, because who knows, someday you might have a pop quiz!