Sunday, August 08, 2010

Lessons on The Subject on Men

I am no relationship guru, nor am I an expert in men.  Combining both reminds me of a lesson in chemistry - complex compound.  And yet it is in their complexity that which makes both more interesting. As how physics would describe them, both radiate gravitational enigma.  

To borrow the english lesson on figures of speech, its simile is irony.  And even if like algebra, the variables are vast, I have come to conclude some basic truth about about men and relationships.  These bullet facts are based from  the chronicles of my learnings in history with and a couple of basic lessons on logic and derivation with all the men I know - boyfriend, ex-boyfriends, male friends, relatives, officemates,  famous personalities, etc.

Here are some basic lessons and facts about men that I always keep in mind.  Some ideas may not be originally mine, some may even sound cliche, but these are the basic, tried and tested truths and principles that I have personally experienced over time:

1. If a man loves you, nothing can stop him from spending time with you.  He will find a way, not matter how inconvenient it is for him.

2. If a man is not interested with you, nothing can stop him from avoiding you.  He can give you a thousand and one excuses why he can't.

3.  You know when a man is serious with you - that is when he plans his future and you are included in that plan.

4. When a man has a problem, he normally likes to process things on his own.  It is not that he is shutting you away, he just needs time to think on his own.  

5.  The more you run after a man, the more he runs away.

6. Never give the man the power to affect the way how you think and feel about yourself.

7. Men secretly crave for appreciation.  They like to know that they know how to please their mate. Learn to appreciate even the littlest and simplest thing.  Most often, for men, the words "thank you" is more impactful than "I love you." 

8. Unless stated, never assume.  Just because he is inviting you out for lunches, dinners or coffee, it does not necessarily mean that he is willing to commit in a serious relationship with you.  Sometimes, they just want to be in company with a beautiful girl.  Period.  So, never assume unless stated.

9.  When a man remembers the smallest details of your conversations, like trivial facts about you and your stories, you know that he is deeply interested in you.  Because more often than not, they forget.  Lest, even pay attention to obvious details.  So if he remembers, girlfriend be flattered.  And hey, that's another brownie point for him to get the appreciation he deserves.

10.  Men and women have different love language.  Do not expect to be loved in your own terms.  Learn to read his language, this way you will be able to feel his love for you.  
So far, the list ends here.  I am still in the process of learning.  And now, being in a relationship, makes the subject matter more interesting.  I now have my personal tutor who can help me learn more.   I look forward to learning the next few chapters in this lesson with my munchkin!

So that's all about it for now.  Class dismissed... Study hard, because who knows, someday you might have a pop quiz!


Finfinn said...

I like this topic - great