Wednesday, December 09, 2015


Nothing lasts forever. Forever has no place in a constantly changing world. Nothing in life is guaranteed.  No one can promise forever, even if they intend it.

Love is not static. But should we now stop believing in love and forever?

Experience and years of contemplation have taught me that if someone tells you "I love you, forever."  Believe it.  Believe that the person loves you and that "forever" is based in the context of here and now. 

Will that "forever" guarantee tomorrow?  I guess it is unfair to demand  an answer.  Whilst an affirmative answer gives us the relief, comfort and security we need, love cannot be imposed. Love is a gift but it cannot be boxed. To demand an answer is not love.  To force answer is selfishness.

I have learned to love. Love. Just love without any expectations.

There is a lesson to be learned from the character of Little Suzie in the"Looney Tunes cartoon story of "A Kiddie's Kitty".  Little Suzie loved Sylvester the Cat so much that she would hug her so tight to the discomfort of Sylvester the Cat, to the point where he cannot breathe.   And in the end, it drove Sylvester the cat to choose to be tormented by a bulldog rather than being "loved" by Little Suzie. 

Somewhere between the ashes of the burnt bridges and diffused past love's flames, I realized that sometimes loving someone means being willing to do anything to get them back... And sometimes it means being selfless to do nothing and surrender them with the space that they need to be happy and grace to be free.

I am learning to love in such a way that the other person feels free.

What's the difference between love and a like? ... Like is when you see you see a nice flower, then you pluck it.  Love is when you see a flower and you water it daily.

To infinity and beyond...

"I have heard that it is so hard to reach the sense of infinity, but at least I'll try.And know that I can't get beyond.  But I want to try." - Toy Story 1

Tomorrow is never guaranteed but I guess it is the hope of possibilities that keeps me going. I think this is what it means to take that leap of faith.